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Growing Together

It’s odd when a couple is together how they grow together and become more like each other. I’ve experienced it a couple of times in my life and I think it’s a wonderful thing. B got me off my butt and out into the world. My family is a bit sedentary and isolated. I’m a far more adventurous and gregarious person because of her. She pushed me out of my comfort zone and now, I enjoy pushing the boundaries and encouraging other people to try new things and go new places. It’s something that I really like about myself and I have to appreciate that gift. I also think that she made me a Type-A traveller. Once I get someplace new, I want to go-go-go. Scuba diving is a great example of this. I eat, I dive, I sleep and then I go home. It’s so much fun.

Similarly, I’ve noticed a lot of things I’ve gained from Sara. I really like running now and that was a passion of hers (Oddly, she’s not running much anymore). I also gained a great respect for social causes and volunteering. I recently spent several hours looking for volunteer opportunities in Austin. I really want to give something back, something non-monetary (although I’ll still donate to the food bank). I’ve also gotten more into the music scene. I’ve always had a passion for good music, but with Sara, she actually got me into going to live events. I’ve never been big on going out to shows and concerts (Yes, I was lame), but Sara introduced me to several cool new bands and several trance artists that I will always like.

Sadly, there are downsides to growing together. I have become more dramatic since dating Sara. This has been some trouble in our relationship. I had also become more trepidatious about being completely honest and potentially hurting her or causing a fight. I have since vowed to be completely honest, even brutally so. You can’t protect someone from the truth. Lies only bring more pain, even white lies.

I enjoy growing closer with someone, it makes an even greater basis for a long term relationship. And, oddly, the best relationships start with people that have admirable traits that are not in common. Once the two people grow together, these differences enhance the relationship and provide an even greater strength to the relationship.

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Copyright: 2010-01-11 19:43:17